GRIEF CARD GUIDE SHEETS

Free downloadable Guide Sheets are provided for each Grief Card.

The Guide Sheets are intended to provide the learner with more understanding about the topic being discussed.  They help to open up creative conversations around grief.  As described, they are a guide only and bring an introduction for the learner about grief.  They are not intended to be prescriptive or adhered to.  Neither do they have to be followed in any particular order.  Grief is not linear.  It is hoped that anyone can bring their experience of grief to a conversation, so that we may all begin to understand better a grief story and work with our own grief as best we can.

DESCRIPTION:

Each guide sheet relates to an individual GRIEF CARD.  The following points relate to the elements found on the front and back of the card:

NOTES:  These bullet points bring more learning to the grief journey and open up ideas and concepts around the title of the card.  It is a fuller but not exhaustive exploration of the learning points that may be gained about each topic. 

QUESTIONS:  Additional questions are given to broaden the thought processes for a grieving person to consider where they are in their journey. 

ACTION POINTS:  Two action points are also included that may help a person to consider how they may begin to bring movement back into their lives.

Guides to Pack 1 ‘Starting a journey’

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Card 1

Shock! Numbness

NOTES:

  • The loss of someone close to us is a huge shock.  We cannot believe it!  This cannot be true.
  • This is a normal response to hearing the news of loss.
  • People can experience a wide range of physical symptoms.
  • It takes a while for the shock to wear off. Days, weeks, months even.  Gradually it happens.  
  • Numbness remains.  It is a way of our bodies protecting us.
  • Shock can be intensified when the loss is unexpected.
  • Others can confuse this with strength, “you’re coping so well”.
  • Shock is telling us that something extreme has happened and that we are grieving.

QUESTIONS:

  1. What have you experienced?
  2. Where have you gone that is safe?
  3. What helps you when you feel the same emotions and feelings again?
  4. Who can you talk to that is safe?
  5. What mental processes do you adopt when you notice shock feelings?

ACTION POINTS:

  • Find a safe place, safe people to talk with.
  • Avoid making big decisions if you can.

Card 2

The tsunami of giref

NOTES:

  • Grief often comes unexpectedly and in waves..
  • You can’t always predict how it will come crashing into your life or banging on your door.  But grief will come.
  • Expect it. 
  • Don’t ignore it.  Don’t try to go around grief. Better to acknowledge it.  It will leave again.
  • Get ready and enter into it as best you can, knowing that it will return at various points in your life and leave again, like the waves on the sea shore.
  • Don’t let it stop you, but give it space.  Find the ways to go through it.  Let it have its work. 
  • There are toxins in tears that need to come out.  Where do they go if you bottle them up?
  • You will be OK. You really will.

QUESTIONS:

  1. Have you experienced a tsunami?
  2. What was it like for you?
  3. Are you experiencing other waves?
  4. When do they come?
  5. What strategies do you have?

ACTION POINTS:

  • Get ready to enter in as best you can.
  • Acknowledge it, give it space.

Card 4

The tsunami of giref

NOTES:

  • Grief often comes unexpectedly and in waves..
  • You can’t always predict how it will come crashing into your life or banging on your door.  But grief will come.
  • Expect it. 
  • Don’t ignore it.  Don’t try to go around grief. Better to acknowledge it.  It will leave again.
  • Get ready and enter into it as best you can, knowing that it will return at various points in your life and leave again, like the waves on the sea shore.
  • Don’t let it stop you, but give it space.  Find the ways to go through it.  Let it have its work. 
  • There are toxins in tears that need to come out.  Where do they go if you bottle them up?
  • You will be OK. You really will.

QUESTIONS:

  1. Have you experienced a tsunami?
  2. What was it like for you?
  3. Are you experiencing other waves?
  4. When do they come?
  5. What strategies do you have?

ACTION POINTS:

  • Get ready to enter in as best you can.
  • Acknowledge it, give it space.

Guides to Pack 2 ‘On the journey’

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Card 25

The tsunami of giref

NOTES:

  • Grief often comes unexpectedly and in waves..
  • You can’t always predict how it will come crashing into your life or banging on your door.  But grief will come.
  • Expect it. 
  • Don’t ignore it.  Don’t try to go around grief. Better to acknowledge it.  It will leave again.
  • Get ready and enter into it as best you can, knowing that it will return at various points in your life and leave again, like the waves on the sea shore.
  • Don’t let it stop you, but give it space.  Find the ways to go through it.  Let it have its work. 
  • There are toxins in tears that need to come out.  Where do they go if you bottle them up?
  • You will be OK. You really will.

QUESTIONS:

  1. Have you experienced a tsunami?
  2. What was it like for you?
  3. Are you experiencing other waves?
  4. When do they come?
  5. What strategies do you have?

ACTION POINTS:

  • Get ready to enter in as best you can.
  • Acknowledge it, give it space.

Card 3

The tsunami of giref

NOTES:

  • Grief often comes unexpectedly and in waves..
  • You can’t always predict how it will come crashing into your life or banging on your door.  But grief will come.
  • Expect it. 
  • Don’t ignore it.  Don’t try to go around grief. Better to acknowledge it.  It will leave again.
  • Get ready and enter into it as best you can, knowing that it will return at various points in your life and leave again, like the waves on the sea shore.
  • Don’t let it stop you, but give it space.  Find the ways to go through it.  Let it have its work. 
  • There are toxins in tears that need to come out.  Where do they go if you bottle them up?
  • You will be OK. You really will.

QUESTIONS:

  1. Have you experienced a tsunami?
  2. What was it like for you?
  3. Are you experiencing other waves?
  4. When do they come?
  5. What strategies do you have?

ACTION POINTS:

  • Get ready to enter in as best you can.
  • Acknowledge it, give it space.

Card 26

The tsunami of giref

NOTES:

  • Grief often comes unexpectedly and in waves..
  • You can’t always predict how it will come crashing into your life or banging on your door.  But grief will come.
  • Expect it. 
  • Don’t ignore it.  Don’t try to go around grief. Better to acknowledge it.  It will leave again.
  • Get ready and enter into it as best you can, knowing that it will return at various points in your life and leave again, like the waves on the sea shore.
  • Don’t let it stop you, but give it space.  Find the ways to go through it.  Let it have its work. 
  • There are toxins in tears that need to come out.  Where do they go if you bottle them up?
  • You will be OK. You really will.

QUESTIONS:

  1. Have you experienced a tsunami?
  2. What was it like for you?
  3. Are you experiencing other waves?
  4. When do they come?
  5. What strategies do you have?

ACTION POINTS:

  • Get ready to enter in as best you can.
  • Acknowledge it, give it space.

Guides to Pack 3 ‘Further along the road’

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Guides to Pack 4 ‘The winding road’

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Guides to Pack 5 ‘A straighter road’

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Guides to Pack 6 ‘A new road’

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